8 Simple Yet Hidden Ways People Manipulate You In Relationships And Here’s How You Can Avoid It
11They don’t give you time
This is something that a lot of manipulators do. They will tell you that the choice is yours but will not give you ample time to make a proper decision. They will make you rush with whatever it is you want to decide. They will always claim that it is urgent and that you have to make an on the spot decision.
12How to counter it
Always remember that you have your personal boundaries that you should not and cannot cross. Do not let them. If asked to make a decision that you think requires more time to ask your partner if the time they have allotted you sounds fair enough. Always think about the situation and the impact it can have before making a choice.
13What you want is coincidently what they want
This is a big one that many manipulators use. They will smooth talk their way into manipulating what you really want. If you want a computer for work which is cheap and they want one for playing games which is rather expensive you should buy the one they want because you both can use it regardless of the importance of it at the moment.
14What to do in this situation
The whole idea here is that your wants and desires are irrelevant to that of your partners which needs to change. You need to make it clear that you want what you want and not what they want. At times compromising may make sense but always is a bad thing. Sometimes you need to get what you want rather than what they make you feel like you want.
15Controlling your life
This is something that starts out small but then turns into a snowball if you let it grow bigger and bigger. It usually starts out with small acts of dominance like telling you that you look bad in something the manipulator does not want you to wear. If you keep going along with it then one day they will flat out just hand you what they want you to wear.
16What you can do about it
You need to learn to say no and put your foot down at times. You need to see the signs of this becoming bigger and bigger than it should be. You need to let them know that there are boundaries across which they should not come. You have rights and you need to let them know that they cannot dictate what you should and should not be doing.