Science Proves Couples Who Fight Live Longer
6Their advice to couples
The research team learned a few important points from this study. They learned that keeping silent does not help anyone. If the couple keeps their anger bottled up then this will just put stress on their relationship and this harms the couple. Voicing your dissent is actually what couples need to do even if it lengthens the argument.
7How does this help couples?
Basically, keeping quiet will build stress. This is why we urge couples to talk about whatever is bothering them. They do not need to fight about the issue and yell and scream about the issue but they can just sit down and talk about it calmly. Talking about the issue and letting your significant other know how you feel will lift a weight off your chest.
8What happens if you bottle up your feelings?
So, now we come to the question of what happens if the couples don’t fight and just bottle up or suppress their feelings? This is a very bad thing to do. No matter how shy or non-confrontational you may be, keeping your feelings inside is a very bad idea. The study showed that men who keep this inside are at a 35% higher risk of death while women are at an 18% higher risk of death.
9What happens when a fight is over?
Do you know the best way to end a fight or when a fight is really over? It’s not when both parties are silent. It is when both parties agree upon one conclusion. Always remember this that both parties need to come to a resolution when a fight takes place in order for it to be actually over. As long as there is no resolve, the fight isn’t over.
10Not satisfied with the end?
This is something you need to remember the next time you have a fight. Take notice how the fight ends, whether it ends in silence or both of you settle on common ground. If you settle on a common ground that means the argument has reached its end and if it ends in silence then one of you is keeping something inside.