10 Things Every Parent Should Let Go Of To Develop and Raise a Mature Child
Maturity has many facets, physical, mental, emotional, moral, social and intellectual. Each one of these maturities is crucial for development of a child into a responsible adult with individuality and independence. As parents we are responsible for the development of children and our actions mould children cultivating their way of thought, perceptions and deeds. When adults, they may be individuals but these influences will alwys be ingrained in their psyche to impact their own behaviour. Every parent can help their kids become one when they grow if they let go of 10 things that they do thinking it is love but it actually impedes their maturity.
1You can help your child develop self-reliance.
Do not do everything for your kids and pamper them. Let them learn to tie their own shoes, wear their own school uniforms and get ready for school. Yes, it will take time and won’t be perfect in the beginning but it will give them the sense of independence and confidence and eventually they will do it perfectly too.
2You can give your child an opportunity to choose for themselves.
Try not to impose your choice on your child when it comes for the kind of shoes, dress, bags or books they want to buy from the store. Obviously put your foot down when something is inappropriate but otherwise let them make choices about the movies they want to watch or music they want to listen. This will encourage individuality and personality development in them.
3You can let your child go alone.
Yes as a parent, it is a scary thought to let our kids go alone to school or malls due to safety issues but eventually they have to and sooner they start the better. As the kids grow older they already know all the necessary safety rules and precautions they need to take on the road and they would be more confident and street smart. If you are still not entirely comfortable with the idea send your kids in a school bus with other kids so that they are not alone.
4You can teach your child self-control.
Children are over emotional and they make it obvious when they are happy, they may be somersaulting around the mall or when they are mad, they can scream at the top of the lungs for the whole neighbourhood to hear. Parents should never give in to their tantrums and be firm and make them learn how to control their emotions and be reasonable with their demands.